I will not tiptoe in glass slippers when I was made to run with the Sword of Shan Yu.


July 23, 2019

I married the love of my life ten years ago, almost to the day. Not long ago, my husband asked me, “How should we celebrate our ten-year-anniversary?” I mostly listened. I mostly listened because I already knew that there would be no ten-year-anniver...

July 18, 2019

*Edit: surgery performed by Dr. Andrea Van Pelt at Partners in Plastic Surgery. Cannot recommend her and her team enough!*

I'm sitting in my recliner (just far enough back 

but not too far) with a bag of frozen chicken behind my back and a drain c...

June 8, 2019

The days when I have my children are long

but the days when I don’t have them are longer

and I would do anything to hear each of them demand

something different from my thinly stretched self at the

same time.

Today I know that they are at the beach—


May 13, 2019

I am just a couple of days away from the one-year anniversary since leaving Pablo. Some days I feel like everything has changed and my progress is great. Other days I feel like nothing has changed and my progress is slight. On the good days I tell my...

May 4, 2019

I spent the bulk of my last session with Andrea crying about missing Pablo because Pablo feels like home. The more I explained the feeling of missing Pablo, the more I broke down (uncontrollably, I might add). Sort of like when I realized I’m leaking...

April 26, 2019

I have a new therapist named Andrea. It was a lot of speed dating therapists until I landed on her. I’ve actually been on her waiting list to get in for about six years now. I first contacted her a few weeks after my house fire, when the twins were j...

January 30, 2019

I wanted to bolt back into my burning house and gather up the things I had left behind. I wanted to run back through the front door and be home. But the front door wasn’t a lock with a deadbolt. If it were just a lock with a deadbolt, my adrenaline w...

January 30, 2019

Her story.

It is melted like wax and spreads miles in every direction

where strangers ice skate across what has been blown out

and rewrite her identity—

they, she—are one.

Her story.

It is scarred with wounds old and new

the memories that cycle like tumblew...

January 30, 2019

I have written Warrior Princess about a brave little girl named Jaelyn enrolled at my daycare center. Jaelyn was born with Spina Bifida. In Warrior Princess, she talks about how she is different from other kids. More importantly, she talks about how...

January 30, 2019

I have written this book with my son, Hendrick in mind. Like many children, Hendrick struggles to produce a range of letter sounds and blends. He works with speech pathologists both at school and in therapy and we work together at home and at my dayc...

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